Theology Thursday: Her desire will be for her husband?

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Today's question: 
Her desire will be for her husband? What is Genesis 3:16 getting at?

Pastor Brady's thoughts:
The second half of Genesis chapter 3 presents us with one of the Bible’s most sobering moments—the pronouncement of consequences following humanity’s rebellion. Adam and Eve sin by disobeying God, and they introduce a myriad of consequences for themselves and the whole world by doing so. One of them is a bit of an odd statement we get from God in Genesis 3:16, when God says to the woman: “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 

Maybe we don’t love that “rule over you” language, but isn’t it good for a wife’s desire to be for her husband? What’s going on here?

For centuries, readers have wrestled with what exactly this “desire” bit means. Faithful Christians have offered several thoughtful interpretations, and it’s worth looking at them together to see if we can arrive at a reasonable conclusion. 

One common interpretation understands “desire” as relational or emotional longing. In this reading, the woman’s desire is her deep yearning for her husband—for intimacy, security, partnership, or affirmation. After the fall, this desire becomes complicated: the relationship that was created for mutuality (Genesis 2:18–25) is now marked by imbalance. The woman longs for closeness, but instead experiences domination. This reading highlights how sin fractures even our best loves, turning interdependence into competition.

A second interpretive option sees “desire” as sexual desire. In this view, the text acknowledges that sexual longing remains strong, even as the relational harmony of marriage is disrupted. The tragedy is not desire itself—since sexuality was God’s good gift in creation—but that desire now exists alongside power struggles and broken trust. Desire is not sinful, but sin distorts desire and corrupts intimacy. 

A third interpretation, often discussed in biblical scholarship, connects Genesis 3:16 with Genesis 4:7, where God tells Cain, “Sin’s desire is for you, but you must rule over it.” The Hebrew word for “desire” (teshuqah) appears only a few times in the Old Testament, and this parallel suggests a definition of desire that means to control or master, not just to want. From this angle, the woman’s desire is not simply longing but a grasping for power in response to her husband’s rule. The verse then describes a tragic cycle: domination answered by resistance, neither reflecting God’s original design. Importantly, this interpretation does not prescribe male rule; it describes the relational damage caused by sin.

A fourth interpretation sees the phrase as describing disordered dependence. The woman turns toward her husband for what only God can fully provide—identity, worth, safety—while the husband responds not with loving leadership but with subjugation. Both spouses are diminished. This reading resonates deeply with lived experience and with the broader biblical story, which consistently calls God’s people back to restored relationships marked by love, sacrifice, and mutual honor.

What unites these interpretations is a shared conviction: Genesis 3:16 isn’t prescribing how to behave in relationships, but is describing how we often do behave in relationships due to our sin. It names the brokenness sin introduces; it does not celebrate it. The good news of scripture is that this is not the final word. In Christ, the curse is confronted and healing begins. The New Testament’s vision of marriage—mutual submission, self-giving love, and shared inheritance in Christ (Ephesians 5:21; Galatians 3:28)—points us forward.

Genesis 3:16 invites lament, honesty, and hope. It tells the truth about broken relationships, while reminding us that God is still at work, patiently restoring what was lost.

TO KNOW GOD AND TO MAKE HIM KNOWN!
- Pastor Brady

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